Saturday, September 15, 2012

Half the battle is knowing what you want....

No easy task.
In time we find out more and more about ourselves.
I get jealous of the people that seem to just know what they want.
Life partners, jobs, furniture/design, cities to live, food, etc.
Choice is daunting.
decisions, decisions.

self protection can cast you away, find ur real Wilson

Through our very nature we aim to self preserve and pro-create - I'm talking on a genetic animal level. Natural selection and we want to win. And most people do what they gotta do to do so - dog eat dog world. Or sometimes we retreat to protect. Fight em or flight from em....
 
I want to talk on about an everyday emotional plane, emotions like happy/sad, calm/crazy, anger, satisfied, etc. Emotions carry us through a day - making or breaking it. Many things effect it - physical, biochemical, sleep, food, etc.
And we have to create personas, perceptions, and ways to guard ourselves from the harsh realities of everyday life and the emotions that make us tick. We aim to protect our experience, our future, as we are the only ones looking out for "I".
 
These protections can create deep rooted barriers which stop us from getting the very things we want.  Like Love.  In order to not lose control when a certain someone strikes our fancy. If we fall into the whimsical idea of love, we are likely to get hurt, right?
 
Love is a hard concept and emotion to fully understand. But it is one of the things they say is our purpose for being here. All things stem from love.
Love is magical.
 
Love is vulnerability. Its like being naked on your first day of school and realising it is not a dream - I just forgot my darn pants. You have to put yourself out there and possible get really hurt.
 
Love blinds. Love is irrational.
 
This makes love amazing but also the very thing that makes you uncontrollable.  In order to be in control and not deal with the uncertainty that comes along with the feelings, we hide them and block the possibility of Love with barriers.

 
 
If you are on that island protecting yourself and building a shield know that love can build bridges. But first you have to get to work on your end and meet it half way.
Search within to understand your barriers, know that the very thing we hide from (consciously or unconsciously) is likely the thing that we want.  Its like when you dislike someone, if you look hard enough it is things within them that you dislike within you (reflective feelings).
 
I do not want to be on that island - talking to a volleyball but rather finding a real Wilson. So I too, am trying to find some wood to help build that bridge across.

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

choose to be fearless

We will never be without fear and anxiety. So by being fearless, it is about not being without but rather pushing through it to learn from it.

Its part of getting through life and growing. Even though...it still blows!

Again another great article on Positively Positive around fear:
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/08/24/fearlessly-facing-a-life-threatening-diagnosis/

AND 4 life choices to combat fear:
1. Creating Present Moment Awareness (as simple as a pause to breath and create space)
2. Staying Physically Fit
3. Being in a Good Relationship
4. Speaking and Feeling Health into Being


`

Saturday, September 8, 2012

A story, a struggle, a way for hope

read this - everyone has a story...through their stories we can find connection, realizations and hopefully a bit of relief...direction towards making life a little easier...

http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/05/21/the-most-important-part-of-your-health/