Why do we need someone else to validate who we are, the actions that we take and anything for that matter. For some reason when a person says how *wonderful* (insert affirmative word) you are, you kind of believe in yourself a little more. Even if it is someone we barely know.
Doubts come - like clouds in the sky and validation is like the wind. But why I question.
If there were an easy exit to remind us of our self worth, I'd put that blinker on to get on that highway with a quickness.
I feel there is a lot more genY'ers (twenty something and younger) on this hwy, I look at them with a bit of envy; "you little kittens, walking around like lions". Do you really have that much confidence on the inside? Or is it just a party on the outside?
I do think you can be of a self-worth mind set and still crave validation. And the genY'ers are just externally and vocally projecting in order to get that validation. 
I think somehow the mind on its own should be able to find the strength to be self sufficient. One of life's mission is grow in the direction of being mentally self-sufficient. This way contentment/happiness would be found more easily.
However, we are social creatures, we thrive to find this connection and almost need it for a sense of completeness for the journey of life. Double edge sword.
OK the SPIF (Social Pay it Forward) Revolution -
WHY?
I would LOVE to help drive a bit of daily selfless giving. But it might just be a pipe dream, with no legs but hey, dream big or go home.
Its a nice idea.
WHAT?
Imagine being able to give without needing money. To make someones day with a little note.
Its simple.
So many people post their status updates, really just fishing for some support. And there is NOTHING wrong with it.
IE:
status: "do not think today is going to be a good day, everything sux."
Reading between the lines: hey guys, you're my friends, please help me make it through the day, are you out there"
SPIF: Its proactive vs reactive.
HOW?
I think everyday we go to one of our unnecessarily large facebook "friends" list, pick one and give them a random little boost.
Its easy.
Maybe a reason why they are your friend.
Maybe just a "hey you are great and lots of people look up to you, just saying",
"you can make today a good day,
"just remember you are special and live today like there is no tomorrow".
Starting the post with SPIF, so people do not think its an odd stalker post.
"SPIF: I remember in high school you were a leader, a motivator and someone not enough people knew - I am sure today you are even better. Keep on, keeping on."
"SPIF: you are so beautiful. I do not know you that well but our paths crossed at some point. And I just think you are going to have a great day and get through all of life's challenges.
"SPIF: "Today you are on my mind. Keep being amazing."
WHEN?
Sometimes I feel death brings these reminders out. But why not do it when people are still alive. It is good to see, read and know that people do care. And think you are special.
Life is bloody hard. Imagine having the real support of "friends" to help get you through. And the support is as simple as words - YOU can do this.
THE SPIF REVOLUTION.
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